I’ll present this e-mail just as I received it, without any explanatory preamble other than to vouch completely for the author’s CF Lifer status and general integrity.
I have been reading you for….ever. And I usually (and still do here) agree with you. But…I need to point out a few things.
Richard Lamoureux’ comment was, and is correct. The requirement for gender reassignment surgery in this country (the US), and virtually every other place in the world, is two letters of recommendation from clinical therapists (psychiatrist and psychologists) that have known and treated the patient for AT LEAST one year, have been on hormones for at least that long, and have lived in the gender ‘of choice’ for at least one year SUCCESSFULLY. Those standards of care are the minimum.
The person in the NYT article fails on virtually every criteria – I can’t imagine a therapist saying surgery was appropriate for this person and I actually doubt that surgery is planned. If the doctor planning it saw that article, I expect him/her to cancel the surgery immediately….but who knows.
Yes, I am post-op transsexual. Thirty-one years ago I began transition when society was not friendly to us in any way. I had surgery 5 years later. I have been, and am, extremely happy.
I have over the years met many that have transitioned. I knew two people back before my surgery that physically assaulted me because I told them in no uncertain terms they were NOT good candidates for surgery. Both went around the system, went overseas with false docs, and got surgery. Both committed suicide within six months. People ARE sometimes very delusional and surgery is not the fix.
Surgery is supposed to be anti-climatic (to phrase it). It should be the cherry on top of the already done sundae. I never abused drugs or alcohol. My therapist was extremely happy that my transition was smooth. I didn’t at the beginning, but did later have the support of my parents. During transition, I got my degree, got a good job, supported myself and had an active social life. Surgery only added the intimacy issue later.
I was born male, I will die male. Biology doesn’t change. However, my identity is now congruent with my outward appearance. Those secondary sexual characteristics that doctors rely upon at birth to categorize us, are now consistent with the brain that developed. I am a woman and have been for longer than I was a boy/man.
The person in that article is seriously emotionally/psychologically screwed up and does not represent those of us that made the effort to get things straightened out for ourselves.
The vast majority of people making the transition today do not like the concept of ‘gender fluidity’, the 57 genders, the FAD that seems to be pushing parents to destroy their children, and yes, most of us are strongly opposed to medical transition prior to 18….though there is discussion about social transition….I’m of two minds about it.
I transitioned starting when I was 29. I am 60 now. I know many women that were in the public eye in the 80s and 90s. I help mentor people in transition now. And I still tell people when I think they are not good candidates and my opinion is that 75% or more of ‘transgendered’ are not transsexual and are terrible candidates for GRS.
You are correct, the person is sick. And probably seriously so.
Most of the people in my life know my past. But I am not public about it.
Anyway, I wanted to offer an opinion, too much for the comments with the post and not interested in getting into a tiff over the issues. But thought it might be useful to drop this note.
And that, it most certainly was.
As I told my correspondent, it gladdens my heart to hear that things worked out so well in his—dang it, her case, which opens up that whole pronoun can o’ worms that I’m gonna bob and weave around by using MC (My Correspondent) from here on out, just as a matter of simple courtesy—since, very often, it does not.
See, there’s a reason that, any time I post on this subject, I go to some length to reiterate that I do NOT believe such people should be ostracized, attacked, or otherwise victimized because of their condition. These are people who already have hassle and heartache enough in their lives, and while I’m entirely comfortable with referring to gender dysphoria as a mental disorder, I also have no wish to add to the pain they must endure. It’s my opinion that simple human decency and compassion require no less.
There are ironies aplenty here. Foremost among them is this: MC and his compatriots are representative of the vast range of human variety, a panoply that dwarfs our understanding of it, and most likely always will.
Why, one might even go so far as to say that MC is himself a living, breathing example of…diversity, no?
Yet for all the self-congratulation about championing their truncated version of “diversity,” I would bet anything at all that the Left would want nothing whatever to do with MC, and would actually be happy to denounce, insult, harangue, and shun him. Thereby once again demonstrating that, for Proggies, “diversity” is quite literally only skin deep. As I said the other day: the Left’s interest in the plight of folks like MC extends only so far as they can use him to advance their own agenda, and not one inch further. MC—and conservative blacks, Hispanics, women, illegal “caravan” invaders, etc—is of no use to them at all. So, y’know, to hell with them.
And THAT, folks—the way they’re perfectly willing to use people for their own ends without Thought One for how that might do them harm; picking up and dropping real, live human beings as if they were merely tools; their remorseless, unconscionably cynical disregard for the damage they do to people who actually do need help and compassion—makes Lefty not just stupid, not just wrong, but evil.
Think I’m kidding about that, or going just a little too far, maybe hyperbolizing for effect? Think again:
Six-year-old James is caught in a gender identity nightmare. Under his mom’s care…. James obediently lives as a trans girl named “Luna.” But given the choice when he’s with dad, he’s all boy –his sex at birth.
In their divorce proceedings, the mother has charged the father with child abuse for not affirming James as transgender, has sought restraining orders against him, and is seeking to terminate his parental rights. She is also seeking to require him to pay for the child’s visits to a transgender-affirming therapist and transgender medical alterations, which may include hormonal sterilization starting at age eight.
Emphasis courtesy of Ace, who also notes:
Anyone who says “federalism is the answer” should consider:
1. The Right accepts the idea of federalism and different laws in different states. The Left does not. They aim to be our masters.
2. This story is from…Texas. I deleted the early statement that this family lives in Dallas, Texas.
Where do you think you can go that federalism will save you from the leftist totalitarians’ holy mission to rule you?
Which mission is evil all by itself, the specifics of this case aside.