One of the ways the Left does it: redefining cowardice as courage, weakness as strength, and disgrace as nobility.
Perhaps it is time for us to face a few facts. The first is this: bullying is an inevitable result of the human condition. There is no real reason to think that this ugly aspect of our nature has manifested itself more in recent years than in any other period of human history. Yet it does seem to be the case that bullying is sending kids spiraling into depression, sometimes suicidal depression, at a much higher rate today than in the past. What does this tell us? Not that bullying is worse now, or more common, but that our children are less equipped to cope with it. And why is that? Well, there are probably several reasons, but one of them is certainly the fact that we are conditioning our kids to be victims.
We have built of this mythology of “the bigger person,” and told our children that the “bigger person” is the one who walks away from bullies, disengages, tells an adult. The “bigger person” is somehow the submissive one who slinks away and runs for cover. We tell our children that remaining silent in the face of a bully is “strong” and “courageous.” But somehow the strong, courageous, bigger child, who spends his childhood avoiding confrontation and retreating in the face of aggressors, never actually feels very strong, courageous, or big. He feels, rather, like a punchline. Because that is what we have told him to be.
I’d be willing to believe that, say, an MMA fighter who remains confidently silent in the face of some scrawny punk’s drunken taunting at a bar is truly being a bigger person. He could tear the other guy to shreds. He isn’t afraid. But he chooses the high road because the scrawny punk isn’t worth his time. Being the bigger person, taking the high road — these are things we do from a position of strength. If we do them because we’re scared, or intimidated, or just praying for the confrontation to be over, we are not on the high road. We are almost literally crawling away on our knees, hoping not to be noticed. Many children spend their formative years in this position. We congratulate them for their maturity while their self-image collapses.
Now, there is a problem with teaching our kids to stand up for themselves and give back what is dished to them. The problem is that every school in America has adopted the profoundly insane position that “it doesn’t matter who started it,” everyone involved in a fight or argument will get in trouble. What sort of system is that? Of course it matters who started it. If Jimmy is defending himself from Bobby, or responding to harassment from Bobby, how is it just or reasonable to punish both Jimmy and Bobby as if they are equally to blame? I understand it can be hard to adjudicate these things in a school setting, but that doesn’t give us an excuse to adopt a blanket policy of punishing children for refusing to bow in submission to bullies. Maybe this is why we are dealing with a so-called bullying epidemic: because we have given bullies free rein and taught our children to wilt in their presence like fragile tulips.
It’s less a bullying epidemic than it is a fragile tulip epidemic, if you ask me. Kind of a symbiosis type thing; you can’t really have the one without the other. And if your culture selects for fragile tulips, then fragile tulips ye shall have, anon and in plenty. It’s exactly as Bill says:
We teach them to be cowards. We reward them for being cowards. And then we wonder why we have so many screwed-up, miserable cowards.
If boys act like boys, we drug them until they behave like good little girls. What Walsh doesn’t quite pinpoint here is that by far the vast bulk of “bullying” issues revolve around boys and their behavior. And from a feminist point of view, boys are just nasty. Violent, testosterone-drenched rapists and murderers in the making, the only decent thing to do is at least force them to act like pacifist females, who are ever so much less threatening to feminist fantasies about dangerous men.
Unfortunately, as with so much else in our deranged culture, we have turned the raising of our men over to women. One should not, therefore, be surprised when women try to raise boys by forcing them to imitate girls.
Nor ought feminists to be complaining about how there aren’t any real men out there for women to marry—when feminists have brutalized all the manhood right out of them, leaving themselves with nothing but simpering eunuchs to choose from.